Highly Sensitive Child
Introduction
High sensitivity in children is a topic that requires our attention. Picture this: your brain filters out 97% of the surrounding information to prevent overstimulation. However, for highly sensitive people (HSPs), the situation is slightly different. They absorb about 4-5% of the information, which might not seem like a significant difference, but it can lead to additional stress. Why? Simply because more information equals more processing for the brain.
What is High Sensitivity?
High sensitivity is a physiological trait where the brain is extra receptive. Instead of the typical 2-3%, HSPs receive around 4-5% of sensory information. This influx can cause extra strain as their brains have to manage more information, requiring more time for HSPs to process and adapt.
High sensitivity is often an inherited trait, and factors like stress during pregnancy or a challenging delivery can influence sensitivity levels.
The "Pause and Check" System
In her book, "The Highly Sensitive Child," Elaine Aron describes two systems present in all mammals: the "go for it" system and the "pause and check" system. Highly sensitive people tend to have a dominant "pause and check" system.
For instance, visualize two deer. One spots succulent foliage and rushes to consume it (the "go for it" deer). The other, a more sensitive deer, halts and assesses for potential predators. Both behaviors are crucial for species survival.
Children with a more active "pause and check" system may come across as shy, overly cautious, or conservative. They might resist trying new things, be it food, activities, or movies. However, they also have their unique strengths. They are good at evaluating their abilities, are cautious in playgrounds, and display empathy towards others.
The Value of Sensitivity
Our fast-paced culture often undervalues sensitivity. People are less willing to wait for a thoughtful, contemplative individual. Yet, society greatly benefits from the minority of highly sensitive people who think before acting.
Historically, sensitive individuals often became scientists, theologians, historians, doctors, teachers, caregivers, and artists. Over time, however, less sensitive individuals have taken over these fields. This shift begins with insensitive individuals aggressively occupying leadership positions. Instead of valuing careful decision-making, they prioritize short-term results, quick gains, and disregard the need for a calm work environment and a stable schedule. This dynamic often results in highly sensitive people's opinions being ignored, they have less influence, and they either suffer or leave. As a result, insensitive individuals gain control over the professional sphere.
Understanding and nurturing your highly sensitive child requires patience and empathy. Recognize their unique strengths and provide a supportive environment for their growth. Remember, their sensitivity is not a weakness, but a different way of experiencing the world.
